2024 has been a year of growth, learning, and showing up; not perfectly, but intentionally. To close out this incredible journey, I wanted to do something different for the final podcast episode of the year. I asked my listeners, the amazing dads in this community, to send in their questions about fatherhood, mindfulness, co-parenting, routines, and more. The response was overwhelming.
In this article, I’m sharing tangible insights to some questions, along with my most honest, heartfelt answers. Whether you’re struggling with parenting challenges, looking to deepen your mindfulness practice, or just trying to figure out how to show up for your kids amidst life’s chaos, this is for you.
I’ve always believed that fatherhood is one of the most transformative journeys a man can embark on. But let’s be real; this path comes with its fair share of late-night worries and moments of doubt. That’s why this Q&A felt so important. It’s not just about me sharing advice; it’s about creating a space where we can all reflect, learn, and grow together.
One of the most powerful questions I received was: “What advice do you have for dads who want to get into spirituality but don’t know where to start?”
This question hit home for me because my spiritual journey has been the backbone of my growth; not just as a dad, but as a man. My answer? Start with yourself. Start with self-compassion. Accept the parts of yourself you might be tempted to judge or hide. That’s where the real transformation begins.
I shared this and so much more in the episode, and I want to dive deeper here.
As dads, we carry the weight of expectation; always striving to lead, provide, and protect without faltering. But true strength isn't about perfection; it’s about embracing our imperfections, being honest with ourselves, and showing up with courage, even when we feel unsure.
Another question that stood out to me was: “How do you handle moments when you and your child’s other parent don’t agree?”
I won’t lie; cultivating a united front in parenting has been one of the most challenging aspects of my fatherhood journey. There was a time when I assumed the worst intentions behind every disagreement. But as I shared on the podcast, the game-changer for me was learning to assume good intentions. Instead of reacting defensively, I started to approach these moments with empathy and communication. That shift has made all the difference; not just in my relationship with my kids’ moms, but in how I show up as a dad.
These aren’t just lessons I’ve learned; they’re lessons I’m still practicing. And that’s the beauty of this journey.
If you’re navigating similar challenges, here are three takeaways from this week’s episode to help you close out the year strong:
- Spirituality starts with self-compassion. Whether you’re journaling, meditating, or simply reflecting, make space to accept yourself as you are.
- Parenting triggers are often about us, not our kids. The next time your child’s behavior frustrates you, pause and ask yourself: “What’s this really about?”
- Successful unity in parenting thrives on communication and empathy. Assume good intentions, even in moments of disagreement, and prioritize your child’s well-being over being “right.”
As we step into a new year, let’s commit to showing up for ourselves, our kids, and our communities; not perfectly, but with intention.
With Love & Light,
-Odeani